That has been the hashtag of my life for the past 2 months. It was a good practice of home management, parenting, time management and communication skills. Fortunately, we’ve got a new helper already (really praying that she’s the one!).
Some may roll their eyes at the scale of what I’ve been through for the past months. But having a helper for more than a year, then suddenly leaves us for her boyfriend, was downright shocking. It was the time that Z was starting to explore his surroundings, that he can’t be left alone. So the chores waited until Z was asleep, or if the grandparents were visiting. It’s also a good thing that we live beside a mall, so meals were still delicious. And there wouldn’t be dishes to do.
I’m really in awe at how some families do away without a helper. I was dead-tired most days and I felt that I wasn’t giving Z the proper attention and stimulation because I was thinking of the dirty floors, empty fridge and soiled cloth diapers.
But I’m proud of our little family, because we survived! There were no major setbacks even if we did not have a helper. My connection with my husband grew deeper because I know how much he appreciated how I ran the house and take care of our son. Z also showed independence by learning to play by himself when told that “Mommy needs to do something”. I now know that asking for help is not a weakness. After all, it does take a village to raise a child, and clean a house!
So, tell me, can you live without a helper? I can’t wait to read your insights!