No Yaya, No Problem!

That has been the hashtag of my life for the past 2 months. It was a good practice of home management, parenting, time management and communication skills. Fortunately, we’ve got a new helper already (really praying that she’s the one!).

Some may roll their eyes at the scale of what I’ve been through for the past months. But having a helper for more than a year, then suddenly leaves us for her boyfriend, was downright shocking. It was the time that Z was starting to explore his surroundings, that he can’t be left alone. So the chores waited until Z was asleep, or if the grandparents were visiting. It’s also a good thing that we live beside a mall, so meals were still delicious. And there wouldn’t be dishes to do.

I’m really in awe at how some families do away without a helper. I was dead-tired most days and I felt that I wasn’t giving Z the proper attention and stimulation because I was thinking of the dirty floors, empty fridge and soiled cloth diapers.

But I’m proud of our little family, because we survived! There were no major setbacks even if we did not have a helper. My connection with my husband grew deeper because I know how much he appreciated how I ran the house and take care of our son. Z also showed independence by learning to play by himself when told that “Mommy needs to do something”. I now know that asking for help is not a weakness. After all, it does take a village to raise a child, and clean a house!

This was taken on the first day of our helper-less journey. The little boy patiently waiting for Mommy to fix his breakfast.

So, tell me, can you live without a helper? I can’t wait to read your insights!

4 Replies to “No Yaya, No Problem!”

  1. Congrats! We’ve been living without a regular helper for the past 3 years coz they always keep leaving biglaan. So, there would be months and months that we won’t have any at all. Ziggy has never really had a yaya either. It’s crazy and I do become really tired everyday. But when I get to think about it, we’re happier because we don’t have “sakit ng ulo” with unreliable helpers, who steal or leave without notice. Sometimes it’s just more peaceful that way though I guess life would be a lot easier for me if we can just get a stay-out cleaner who can do the deep cleaning at least twice a week. 🙂

    1. I know what you mean by “sakit ng ulo”. We had a helper before who didn’t care about what she was doing so the house was messier. I read that there are companies who provide deep house cleaning.. I’m just not sure of the area they service to.

  2. Ever since I got pregnant and married, I have decided from the very beginning that I will be the one to look after my kids. But with the help of my husband, who di the laundry and irons the clothes even once in a while, is really a big help for me. And yes I have no yaya or helpers for the past 15 years. Hahaha! But on the other hand once in a while I ask help from a very good helper to help me around the house. And yes it is not bad to ask help once in a while…

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