I’ve been privileged to be invited by New Beginnings to a talk by Life Coach Pia Nazareno-Avecedo. I surely learned a lot, and there was a party in my tummy courtesy of yummy Japanese food (Thanks, Sugi!). Being a new mom, it’s important to have a support group such as New Beginnings, who I know will lend an ear to my worries without prejudice. Having a “mommy group” also helps in finding out new advancements in the different aspects in raising a baby.
The title of the talk is: “Raising Little Heroes: A Parenting and Self-Enriching Program“. This is the first of a series of modules, aptly titled “Filling Each Child with Love“. Here are the lessons that struck me the most:
- There is a parenting style called “progressive parenting“. I know that I belong in this category because I am willing to understand new ways and techniques of parenting to adapt in this day and age. Modern moms are not just relying with the tried and tested method as times are changing now. Sure, some of the traditional practices may still work, but we need to be open to newly-researched parenting strategies.
- In order to raise a happy home, there should always be a high level of positive energy coming from you. This will emanate from you to your kids to your household. This will ensure that there is quality time together, no matter the quantity. People with high positive energy are those who are: enthusiastic about parenting; not N.R. (no reaction); without signs of depression and; engaging to people.
- This statement from Coach Pia hit me in the bulls-eye: “Nothing good will happen if you’re attached to your children“. Since day 1, Z and I have just been separated from each other, maybe for an hour. I’m scared to leave him with anybody else. But, Coach Pia is absolutely right. Now that Z is nursing less often, he can stay with Yaya (or Mamita, Popsy, Wowo or Wowa) for longer periods of time, in another room or place, without me. This is good for both of us; me so I can blog (or shop!) and for him to adjust to other people and surroundings. Of course, because I’m OC, I’ll leave lists of what he can eat, how to change his nappy, etc. Or I shouldn’t. I should not be guilty in wanting to spend time with myself or for Z to spend time with other people. As parents we are teaching the young ones to be able to stand on their own and trust their instincts. He is not an extension of me; he has a life to live. His pain is not my pain; but I can help him deal with it. Just yesterday as he was going to get his 6-in-1 shot, I looked him in the eye and said “You will be given a shot. It will hurt but it’s good for your body. Yes you may cry but the pain will go away.” I just held his hand as he cried for a few minutes, then he was back to his jolly self again. Oh, progress!
- Spend time with your children wholeheartedly! The intent to be with them should be 100% and nothing less. So, turn off those iPhones and stop tweeting or updating your Facebook.
- There are different parenting styles for each child. As each child is unique and so should your ways with them be. This thought would greatly help parents to stop comparing their children. They are special as individuals.
It was a fruitful morning, indeed! There’s still more to share from the handout but I stated those which are relevant to me in stage of parenting. There were also valuable insights from the other mommies present. I’m really looking forward to the coming modules. These lessons are shaping who I am as a parent, as Z is growing up.
Can you relate to what I learned?
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Thanks Kris for inviting me! A shout-out to my new mommy friends as well!